Common Things That Couples Rush Into
By Amber Kelleher Andrews
After dating for a short amount of time, when your new boyfriend or girlfriend suddenly decides to buy you a pet, it abruptly hits you that this is probably one of the stereotypical ways in which couples move too fast. In the so-called dating battlefield, there are many pitfalls to avoid and this is definitely one of them, especially if one person is far beyond the other in terms of love and/or affection. Oftentimes, couples rush into a decision that, only with the benefit of hindsight, is seen as a bad idea. I’m sure everyone in a relationship at some point asks themselves if they’re going a little too fast, or feels that their partner is coming on too strong.
When it comes to a list of things that people may be guilty of rushing into when in a relationship, two of the most obvious examples include buying a pet or moving in together. After all, if there’s any potential for a breakup to occur, the action of buying an animal for a loved one or both of you living in the same place are no-brainer examples of situations where arguments will effortlessly arise. Sure, sharing responsibility can really create a fantastic connection between a couple, and you might feel closer because of a new dog or living in an apartment together, but small problems can majorly test this bond.
Here are some other additions to the “Things that a Couple are Guilty of Rushing Into” list:
1. Saying “I love you” too soon. If you say it, you HAVE to mean it because you can’t take it back. And if the other person doesn’t say it? Ooooooooh boy, that’s an über-awkward conversation just waiting to happen.
2. Prioritizing one another ALL THE TIME. If you’re guilty of repeatedly saying “I’m not sure, I’ll have to check what I’m doing with my girlfriend/boyfriend tonight”, then you’re probably alienating your friends most of the time. Neglecting the special people in your life isn’t cool and they don’t deserve it.
3. Sharing too much. If you already share passwords, then any potential breakup means your ex can hack your email account or Facebook profile, interfere with your Netflix streaming queue or sabotage your Twitter feed. All kinds of digital revenge could come your way, so it’s wise to change passwords swiftly. Additionally, the majority of arguments that couples have are money-related, so it’s wise to avoid sharing a bank account.
4. Bringing your partner along to everything gets boring for your friends super-fast. You could be bringing your new significant other along with you when you meet up with friends at a bar, or grabbing a pizza and having a girlie night with friends. It could be when hiking, seeing a movie or partaking in a yoga class. Having your new boyfriend or girlfriend along with you every step of the way may backfire and your friends and family may begin to dislike their presence, even if they are not to blame in any way themselves. After all, familiarity breeds contempt in situations such as this.
5. Meeting the parents is a big deal. But introducing your new squeeze to them may get their hopes up, and your parents will start to ask about your boyfriend or girlfriend almost every time you chat on the phone or see each other in person. This means more pressure on the relationship, especially if you start to lose interest in your new partner. Only do the “I want you to meet my folks!!” thing if you’re sure that they’re The One.
6. If you go on a vacation together too soon, you could expose each other to all the annoying everyday tics and habits that you typically do without a second thought when alone. Uncovering all of your infuriatingly maddening customs and tendencies in a dreamy paradise isn’t worth it, and a stunning beach setting isn’t the ideal place to have a public argument. Don’t jeopardize a romantic relationship that isn’t stable yet.
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